Our Mission

For everyone to become and project the best version of themself, and find lasting love with a truly compatible partner.

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Becky and Arnel

What Do We Stand For?


Singles don't waste time browsing, messaging or dealing with fake profiles. Matchmakers quickly hone in on the right matches.


We are fanatics about pairing people so they truly last, based on relationship data we already know plus our own continuous testing.


We welcome all people, as long as they're open to a serious relationship. Anyone can sign up and be eligible to be matched.


We have set pricing, share our partner companies, display real couples on this site instead of stock photos, and always keep it real.


We continue to develop the latest tech to help pair people best, from advanced filters to a helpful matching algorithm.


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Carla Swiryn


Carla has the pleasure of running the business, doing 1:1 consultations with singles, and discovering and approving matches.

She can personally identify with the difficulties of modern dating - it took her until age 41 to find her right partner. She lives with her amazing, loving, and supportive fiance in the San Francisco Bay Area, where she was happily born and raised.

While she greatly appreciates life in the tech innovation hub of Silicon Valley, she’s also enjoyed stints in Colorado (CU Boulder for college), Florida, Spain, Brazil, and India, and appreciates the beautiful diversity and connectedness of people worldwide.

Kristina Southam

Kristina Southam


A trained relationship coach & former nonprofit leader, she lends her amazing people skills to help members find love.

Franco Rossi

Franco Rossi

Frontend Web Developer

He optimizes the user experience and user interface so things looks pretty.

Nico Werner

Nico Werner

Backend Web Developer

A good dude who maintains the member database, filters, storage, and security.

Elsa Amri

Elsa Amri


An experienced Visual Designer & Webflow developer with a passion for designing for communities.

Greg Guarnay

Greg Guarnay


Armed with an MBA from UCLA and VP experience at a software startup, Carla's fiance helps make key decisions.

Navin Ramachandran

Navin Ramachandran


Match.com's former COO shares invaluable insight while empowering visionaries worldwide through Kanthari.

Founder's Letter:
The DateSpot Story

Most people don't grow up wanting to be a matchmaker, and I was one of them. The career wasn't presented as a viable option - at least not to me in the CA Bay Area. Advertising sounded fun, lucrative, and creative, so I pursued it. I worked as a copywriter developing ideas for print and radio ads, worked at Google for seven years creating and optimizing digital ads, and then ran my own online ad agency. 

In 2013, my friend mentioned that someone was looking for help building her matchmaking startup. Thinking it could be an interesting side gig, I decided to help out with events and recruiting candidates part-time. After a few months, I realized that I was more excited to work on this other company than my own, so I shifted fields and became their first hired matchmaker.

I enjoyed growing their Bay Area member base from essentially zero to over 10,000 over five years. Even better - I successfully matched up multiple couples who would go on to get married - the youngest was in their twenties, and the oldest was in their fifties.

I loved it, but entrepreneurship is addicting. I started to think about allowing singles a fresh option for singles, that would also help matchmakers in a unique way. So I explored it, without an MBA, a co-founder, or any outside funding. DateSpot was founded in December 2019, focused on free matchmaking. In 2022 we added new services beyond matchmaking and expanded the geography to effectively match people nationwide (and even accept people internationally).

I bring my experience in marketing analytics to the matching process, being more data-driven than most matchmakers. I break up many answers to questions in singles onboarding into more options than most dating services have in order to pair people better. I continue to test many dimensions that could be measures of compatibility to bring fresh insight to the public.

There's no perfect algorithm for matching, but we can strive to get as much important data as possible to get close. We look at physical attraction, common goals, overlapping interests, lifestyle habits, being on the same “wavelength”, and a balance in energy. You don’t want to date yourself! I took this to heart and soon after founding my company, met my own amazing life partner.

My wish for you is that however you find love, you do find it. I also hope that you love yourself deeply as much as anyone else and understand its important role in attraction. While we’re all independent beings fully capable of living and thriving alone, and moments of singledom can be fun and healing, life is even better shared with someone else.

Carla Swiryn